Marriage Isn’t Simply Your Choice, but a Covenant with a Holy God
by Garrett Bodie
On the 29th of September and article was written within the Mirror that was, in a word, controversial. The subject matter was marriage – more specifically, that homosexual marriage should not only be tolerated, but accepted by Christians on the principles of Christ himself. In the article it was said that Jesus loved us, and he commanded us to love God first and love others as we love ourselves (Matthew
In “I support same-sex marriage because I am a Christian”, the argument was made that homosexuals have a “basic right to equality” on the basis that “genuine mutual love [couldn’t be] wrong”, and that Christ teaches us to be pacifistic and tolerant. There are a multitude of monolithic errs within this way of thinking, and this first one is this: our understanding of scripture should be the foundation for forming our opinions, not vice versa. When we allow our opinions to skew our interpretation of God’s Word, what we are doing is manipulating something that is holy so that it fits our agenda. That is not how scripture was intended to be read or used, because in essence, doing so is placing God into our pocket and using Him as a “get out of jail free” card.
Now, back to the real issue at hand – homosexual marriage. An issue that was not discussed at all in the last article of the Mirror was the institution of marriage itself. The statement was made that “if a couple has been through hell together, saying that they can’t be married tells them that their life is worthless”. The main problem here is that scripture does not support this statement in any way. A person’s value does not come from the person they marry or the marriage itself, but instead comes from their inherent status as a creation made in God’s image (Genesis
Marriage, in itself, was created by God. It is a covenant, not simply between two human beings but between a newly-unified couple and the Lord of all creation (Matthew 19:3-6, Ephesians 5:21-33, Luke 16:18). Entering into a covenant with God -- a spiritual promise that He created, -- while bathing oneself in purposeful, knowledgeable sin is blasphemy as far as I am concerned. When a person tells God “I am going to take a holy thing you have made and use it to solidify a sin in my life”, what they are doing is saying that their sin is more important to them than their relationship with God.
Read Genesis 19. Read 1 Timothy 1:9-10, 1 Corinthians 6:9, or Romans 1:26-27. The Bible is very clear on its stance that homosexuality is a sin. On that same note, the Word is also explicit: marriage is a holy, sacred covenant between two people and God. “Hate the sin, love the sinner” is an excellent motto – as the last issue of the Mirror illustrated – but only when used correctly. Scripture tells us that Jesus spent nearly all of his time on earth with sinners. He loved them, and we are to love them in the same way. However, loving a person and allowing them to defile a holy gift from God with intentional sin is wrong. We are to love others as ourselves – no matter who they are or where they stand in their spirituality. First, however, we are to love God; and at times that means putting our foot down when He is being insulted. Treating homosexuals or homosexuality as any worse than lying or alcoholism is ludicrously wrong, but treating marriage like a business transaction is evenly so. We are all sinners, even those saved by grace. No man is any better than the other. That does not justify the pacifistic allowance of sacrilege.
A rebuttal of “I support same-sex marriages because I am a Christian”
Dear Editor,
First and foremost, I wish to make it inescapably clear that this is NOT an opinion column, but merely an editorial review. This article does not show or reflect the author’s view on such matters; rather, it is a rebuttal of said article, based on philosophy and deductive reasoning through the lens of Scripture. Because the previous article failed to have a coherent stream of thought and begged many questions, I will enumerate my argument for ease and clarity. I believe there are five basic questions begged, and they are as follows:
1. What is “Christian spirituality?” I cannot but assert that the author is referring to the idea of orthodox Christianity or “the Christian faith/life.” Instead of leaving the question begged, I will proceed to flesh out what this means. James says, “[pure religion] is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.” (James 1:27) Peter and John echo this with their instruction “to be found without spot or blemish” and “[he] who has been born of God does not keep on sinning” (2 Pet. 3:14 and 1 John 5:18, respectively). Jesus himself claims that the greatest commandment is this: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matt.
Therefore, a fundamental understanding of “Christian spirituality” remains imperative to the argument of same-sex marriage and its legitimacy. However, as noted above, “Christian spirituality” or “the Christian faith/life,” needs to be understood within its own context and framework in order to speak meaningfully about homosexuality and same-sex marriage. One cannot bring matters of the culinary arts into the chemistry lab and expect that ‘cooking until well-done’ will always provide the safest end!
2. What are “basic rights of equality” and Who grants them? Claiming “basic rights” without a context or a sovereign that grants them in that context severely begs the question. I maintain that a foundation must be given for these “rights” or at least some entity that grants them. Marriage, understood in the context of “the Christian faith/life,” more exemplifies the status of privilege, rather than right.
3. What, exactly, is “Love & Marriage?” The Bible says “God is love” (1 Jn. 4:8); so what? What does this mean? Well let us keep reading: “In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him” (1 Jn. 4:9). So then, God expresses His love via Jesus’ office as bridegroom for the church. The Bible (Eph. 5, Rev. 21) speaks of Christ being the bridegroom of the church, His bride. This relationship embodies true love—namely someone who is willing to give [His] life for [Her] (these particular pronouns are used simply to give a distinction between the Heavenly picture of the Christ marriage and the Earthly picture of man and woman in marriage). Another aspect of this heavenly relationship rests in Jesus’ sole concern for keeping His bride pure. Jesus, in His High Priestly Prayer (John 17), thanks God for giving Him His people and consecrates them as “not of the world” (v. 15-17). He uses this language to summon the image of Ch. 8 of John’s Gospel—Christ is the light of the world and whoever follows Him will not live in darkness (8:12). Therefore, it is evident that the Savior does not intend to let His bride remain who she is or accept who she is, but deeply wishes to sanctify her and make her holy (
4. What is Sin and Hell? A lot of people in our culture maintain that sin is something that we do. It does hold true that ‘we are sinners because we sin.’ However, the inversion of this statement is crucial to understanding the true nature of mankind and the tragic consequences that we face. I would beg you to consider: ‘We sin because we are sinners’ (Rom.
But first, I would like to rent asunder the shroud of ignorance on this matter of ‘hell.’ The author of the previous article mentioned “[the] couple has been through hell together.” By definition, ‘hell’ is not ‘hard times’ or ‘suffering’ or ‘persecution’ or ‘slander’ or ‘demeaning, cruel stereotyping’ or ‘ridicule.’ Rather, hell encompasses the relentless wrath of a Holy and Just God, who by His very nature must turn His back on the apostate, wicked and evil entity upon which this wrath is outpoured. Hell is the absence of God’s love and care and grace that does not simply make people happy, but rather is actually essential for the very sustaining of life—in any form, be it hostile or not—in every second for all of time. It is as if humans were to hit absolute zero, a REAL vacuum were no motion occurred, and the bane of our existence for all of eternity was purposelessness. So presuming the status of ‘hell’ on the temporal, minute sufferings of this life are not simply irresponsible, but actually undermining and underestimating of God’s sustaining Goodness. Furthermore, James would actually claim that suffering, the more apt description of the quoted ‘hell,’ refines our faith and draws us closer to God (James 1:2). The fire which refines faith must be hot enough to cause all impurities to rise out of our crown of life, rendering pure holiness before the Lord of glory (James 1:12).
5. The Apostle Paul and what he really says about homosexuality, sin and morality? First, I need to clear up some philosophical inconsistencies. The author of the article seems slightly inconsistent as to what category sexuality should fall under: the mere metaphysical or the ethical (thus the misunderstandings of equating same-sex marriage to mixed-race marriage or sexuality to gender and race—these are quite separate and irrelevant). Given Scripture as our lens, homosexuality and, by proxy, same-sex marriages remains strictly a moral matter (if not already evident, the basis for this article is Scripture because of the presupposition of “Christian spirituality” given by the previous author). That author was exceedingly correct in citing Leviticus, however flawed it may have been. Leviticus, the eighteenth chapter, explains a litany of sexually immoral acts, which is not limited to homosexual acts. Verse 20 also mentions adultery. It is evident to see then, that these regulations were not merely for “ritual requirements.” And what about the writings of the Apostle Paul? I believe it to be most evident in 1 Cor. 6:9 and 1 Tim. 1:8-11. In both instances, Paul is not speaking of a condemning law to people who do not have their acts together and need to shape up. Paul writes these letters to people who he has a deep and passionate concern for. The Corinthians were a church amidst a Greek and pagan culture full of sexually immoral practices (not ancient, Jewish rituals). His concern for them was a fatherly concern (1 Cor.
The infinitely bad news is that homosexuality is a sin and everything it entails (according to the Scripture cited previously). The infinitely [greater] good news is that Christ is a loving and atoning sacrifice for that sin and everything that it entails (1 Tim.
Sincerely,
Philip Bunch